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I chatted with one of my unwed godsons on characteristics of a good wife since he is passed age 35 where now the diseases of aging may change radically one’s thinking from making a marital decision that was okay at age 21.
This godson is a handsome biracial with a Bachelor of Science degree. He has a couple of children. As we chatted he was making a case that he was not ready for marriage. He argued that he must find the right one or perhaps she finds him.
I pointed out that the selection process radically changed once he reached 35 years of age because now he has to worry about killer diseases as cancer, heart attack, stroke, and diabetes. The selection of a wife must depend heavily also on your confidence in her ability to make life and death decisions on you.
This godson shared that he was now exercising once again. He had changed his diet.
I know he and I will have another go-round, so I decided to chat with people over 35 in Battery Park New Castle DE to get their opinions on my view of the wife’s characteristics for the over 35 male.
A Caucasian couple who said they were married over 35 years felt I was on the right track. The husband said he is dealing in the housing industry where young chaps share their marital views. He recalled chaps getting married after age 35 raving over their happiness versus playing the field.
An African American woman with grown children shared that she had been married once to the wrong man. She said he was not there for their children and she had to force him to pay child support.
I asked if she was in love with this ex-husband. She admitted that she took a chance on marriage and things turned sour.
I ask if she found love today would she marry again. She said she would not accept a man with children because she was not going to raise someone else’s kids nor did she wish to get involved in the baby mama drama that comes with spousal children. This lady also felt that many men do not mature until over 35.
This African American lady then shared that she has a married daughter with seven children and with a husband not capable of offering much help in raising these kids. She said she had foreworn her daughter not to have a lot of children after the first one because she did not have faith that the husband would be helpful. This African American mother says she does not want to get caught in raising these grandchildren unless something very serious happens to her daughter making the kids candidates for foster care.
An African American couple who said that they were over 35 felt I was on target. I did not see wedding bands, so I assumed that they were courting. Hence it was interesting watching the body language of the female as the male made the comments. This chap said all the right things because she maintained a pleasant smile throughout our discussion.
Finally, I chatted with An African American chap with his daughter who appeared to be a tween. He said that he talks with the young chaps. This African American fellow argued the case that maturity is the key thing lacking.
As I tumbled the comments over that I heard four key points emerged:
- Young people had not factored into their modus operandi the devastating impact of the diseases of aging
- It may take reaching age 35 for many men to mature mentally to enter into marriage.
- Love may not be a strong enough force to make a woman accept a man with a readymade family if baby mama drama from the children’s biological mother or mothers is expected.
- Men must understand that marrying a bimbo may be signing their own death certificate if she is unable to make life and death decisions that accompany getting old.
The bottom line is a male may marry a bimbo to be an ornament on his arm to flaunt his sexual prowess at age 24, but her mental dullness is a nightmare at 44 for that plays into the hands of the Grim-reaper. Will the bimbo keep you alive in a medical crisis or allow you to simply die of natural causes to receive your big insurance payment if you have one?
