I believe the key question in deciding whether to marry an individual or not is “do I feel comfortable allowing this person to make life and death decisions on me?”
As we all get old the diseases of aging redefine our future on how many tomorrows we can anticipate having. Cancer, diabetes, heart trouble, strokes, Alzheimer’s disease and so on do not care how much money and power you possess. Your spouse will be the key individual making life and death decisions that determined your future tomorrows when you are incapable of making these decisions yourself.
Thus marrying a bimbo or a gigolo trophy to have an ornament on your arm to show off in public may become a nightmare when the diseases of aging attack and you find yourself with a spouse lacking sound judgment. Long tenured married couples and couples who married late in life understand that the diseases of aging are ever present to destroy the marriage. Therefore having multiple divorces may be your worst nightmare for now you have no one that cares when the grim reaper is seeking to end your life.
I am fortunate that my wife, Gwynelle of approximately 50 years, is able to make life and death decisions that have expanded my life expectancy. We each have had our bouts with the diseases of aging, so we find that we must pay very close attention to the health conditions of our spouse. What I’m saying is that love is redefined as the years pass, so the love you got 10 years ago may not be the same kind you find today in a healthy marriage.